For some aging adults and caregivers, conversations about needs don’t go the way anyone expects. Sometimes these conversations can get heated and it might seem as if you and your senior just can’t get along at all.
Put Yourself in Her Shoes
It’s easy to see things from your own perspective, especially when you’re worried about your senior and her situation. But it’s also important to try to see the situation from her perspective. Your senior may not see some issues as urgent or she may see something as vitally important that you’re ignoring. Regardless, when you’re able to shift your perspective, that is going to allow you to see more about what actually impacts her.
Try Listening More and Talking Less
Along with that vein, you’re going to want to assess how much you’re listening versus how much you’re talking. If you’re spending a lot of your time trying to talk your senior into seeing things your way, you’re missing the boat a bit. Spend a little more time listening to what she’s telling you and what’s in between what she’s saying.
Assess Whether You’re Overstepping
Something else that you might want to consider is whether or not you might be overstepping a little bit. Part of being a caregiver involves stepping in when you’re needed, but your senior might feel as if you’re taking on too much. Talk to her about whether she feels as if you’re helping her more than she needs so that you know whether it’s time to step back a bit. When you can approach that part of caregiving honestly, it’s easier to find your footing.
Approach Caregiving as a Partnership
Overall, caregiving needs to be a partnership between you and your aging family member. When you’ve got a partnership, it’s going to be less of a power struggle between you and your senior. You both want what’s best for her and that is going to involve working together. This also helps to build trust between you and your senior so that when she does need to lean on you more, she can trust you to make decisions that match up with what she wants.
Sometimes emotions are just running too high to talk about the issues that you need to talk about with your senior. As a caregiver, there are times when you need to back away from a topic and come back to it later when you’re both feeling a little bit calmer.
If you or an aging loved-one are considering hiring Elder Care in Chelsea, AL, please contact the caring staff at Senior Legacy Care today. Call us at (205) 380-7418.
Susan still owns and operates a successful accounting firm in Pelham.She believes that the combination of her business experience and compassion for others is a perfect blend to grow Senior Legacy into a leader in the senior home care industry.Susan is committed to the further growth of Senior Legacy’s clients, employees, and surrounding community.
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